Seems like lots of my friends are moving lately,

and moving into new areas of the city.

Here is my advice for how to get absorbed into

the neighborhood.

First, develop a plan. Don’t think that you can do this

without research, development and planning.

Although it may be difficult, you need to try to meet

people.  Ask yourself: What do you want to achieve

with your new lifestyle?  Then proceed from there.

Ask yourself as we,,: What type of impact do you want

to have in the neighborhood?  Do you want to be invisible

(not recommended)?  Do you want to become known?

What are your reasons for socializing? If you are unable

to answer the question, your work is cut out for you.
Getting a phone is first. Provide a way for people to

communicate with you after you pass out your tel

number.  Two-way communication is essential.

It provides  an improvement over things of the past,

like just running into people.

It is possible that you will receive negative reactions

by older neighbors.  Flow with it.  Often they are just lonely.

Although criticism can be frustrating, it can also be beneficial.

If you can be transparent, they will like that. Be completely

honest about your motives.

Having hidden agendas will only backfire.

This includes misleading.

Add a personal touch.   The value of socializing is in the

relationships you build.  Valuable trust and communication.

Remember, you are more likely to influence by a friendly face

so do not look cranky.
Become part of the community.  Take time to become part of

the dialogue and share your valuable knowledge.  Acknowledging

others will build trust.

Remember, you have to give to receive.

As with any sphere, the constant battle of emerging from

your cacoon of shyness, will be rewarded.  Yes, this is true.